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Thursday, November 3, 2011

A really bad day yesterday


     Today was a bad day for me.  I agreed to take mom up to the hospital for her Angioplasty.  It was NOT my brightest day.  She was supposed to be there by two, so I left here at one.  It's about fifteen minutes from here to her house, but I wanted to make sure I was there early enough that if we hit traffic, it wouldn't make us late.  I sat and talked with her for a while, then we left for the hospital around one thirty.  We were early (of course, lol) but better early than late, right?!?  We go in and they put me in the waiting room and take her back right away.  She got a lot of questions to answer.  They took her full medical history and everything.  (She's had ten surgeries in the last ten years, so that took them a while.)  I went up and asked them if we could change the channel (I was thinking ESPN for football, lol).  She said she could, but she was actually about ready to take me back.  So we go back, and she's not even in her gown yet.  So the nurse comes back in and says, "Come on back out to the lobby, and you can watch ESPN," and I was all about that, so we went back out to the lobby.  Jim showed up, my bil, and asked me where Cathy was.  When I told him she wasn't there yet, he went to wait for her.  (I don't think he likes me.)
     They came and got Jim and I and took us back a while later.  She was all gowned and ready.  I really wasn't thinking about it when I sat down, but there were two chairs grouped together, and one alone.  I sat in one of the two and put my bags on the other (I try and sit on two chairs, so I have room for all my stitchy stuff).  Jim sat in the one, and we were talking to mom (nothing big) when his phone rang.  Cathy was lost, so he went out to find her.  I moved into the one chair (had my scissors on one arm, my highlighter on the other, and my floss on top of my purse which was on the floor) so they could have the two together.  The doc came in and met me and told mom he had just finished the procedure before the procedure before hers.  He had one more to go (and we were already past the time of her procedure to start).  Jim and Cathy got back and we all sort of desultorily talked about nothing, waiting.  Finally they came and got her.  They took her back and the real waiting began.  We got several updates, and one of them had me cracking up.  The nurse who was in the room doing mom's medical history came in, and she looked at me and said, "You're the daughter who likes football," and I started cracking up.  Apparently, after I left to go watch ESPN, mom told the nurse how I only turn my cable on during football season.  She thought this was hilarious, and told me so.  She told us about the stents, and Cathy immediately made plans to stay the night.  I told her straight up that mom didn't want anyone staying the night, but she insisted she wanted to stay the night.  I pointed out that it would make mom feel bad, and she didn't care.  I guess whatever makes her feel better is more important to her.  They got her off the table around six thirty.  The doc came to tell us the deposits were very calcified and they had to put in three stents.  They said they had to get her off the table, and get her under some blankets as she was cold.  We waited and waited and waited, and then the doc came back and said she was complaining of chest pain and they were gonna put her back on the table and check it out.  They found a clot.  It's extremely rare that the insertion of a stent causes a clot.  (It would happen to my mom.  She just has that kind of luck, lol.)  So they ballooned it, and got rid of the clot.
     The doc came and talked to us again to tell us what had happened, and I said thanks for staying when he did.  My sister and brother in law both made fun of me for my common courtesy.  After all, he could have been a dick and sent her up to her room anyways.  He left, and at about nine, they took her back off the table.  The put a bunch of blankets on her, and started warming her up.  They put her on Oxygen.  She started puking.  (Cathy came back and was freaking out about it.  I pointed out that mom always vomits after she's given any type of anesthesia, or sedative.  She said, "I know that.  I've been at every surgery."  I was a little bit ticked because she wasn't at the one where mom threw up on me.  But I didn't say that.  I said, "Then don't stress about it.  It's normal for her and she'll be fine after she's done."  That got me, "Don't start this with me," and when I opened my mouth to say start what, she got really snotty.  "Just be quiet!!"  Since I'm extremely stressed over this whole thing, it's hard for me to stay in control.  But I do it.  I keep my mouth shut, because I don't feel like screaming at my sister right now.  I WILL address it with her later.)
     So then they come and get us.  I had packed up mom's clothes and stuff.  She brought a change of underclothes (since she hardly wore her clothes the day before, and would be in a hospital gown from one on if she had to stay the night, then she felt she only needed new underclothes).  They gave the bag to Jim, he gave it to Cathy, and she put it on the sink and left it there.  (And y'all know how I feel about seeing other people's knickers, lol.  But I packed them up cause I do love my mom, and she needed her knickers!!!)  So they take us around the corner and through the hall.  They opened up the waiting room doors, and send us into the waiting room.  By this time, I'm ticked off at my sister and her hubby for being so snotty to me.  (It was an all day thing.  Like Cathy is the only one under stress, ya know?)  So I basically ignored them.  Two minutes after we get up to the waiting room, they're both gone and the call goes out.  Code blue in CVU room six.  I'm sitting there, stunned and numb, and praying.  I just KNEW that mom was in room six.  A few minutes later, they canceled it.  That made me feel better.  Cathy and Jim came back, and Cathy called in on the intercom to see why we hadn't been called back yet.  (She didn't ask me if they had tried or anything.  I would have waited for her though.)  They said another fifteen minutes.  Finally, they came and got us at ten thirty.  Of course, she was in room six.  I knew it!!  She was in Ventricular Fibrillation, so they shocked her back to normal rhythm.  When we got back, she was so out of it.  She asked my sister if she got the sandpaper for the kitchen sink, and Cathy said yes.  I was wondering about that, when she turned around, looked at Jim and said, WTF???  She rambled when I talked to her too.  Something about calling Aunt Joan about it, and then Aunt Joan called back and someone came to pick it up on Friday or Saturday, she thought.  I was like okay, I'm sure you're right.  Kissed her and said I love you, and I was gonna head home.  At this point, I've been up since seven AM, and I'm stressed and ticked off.  I said goodbye to Cathy and Jim, and headed for the car.  It was easy to find, thank God, or I would have stood there, blinking, going where did I park, lol.  Got in, had a good cry, and drove home.  Then I got on the phone and shouted at Julie while scraping Randi off the ceiling on messenger.  So if all of you would please say a prayer for mom and Randi, I would appreciate it.  Hopefully, it will help.  Thanks for all of you listening to my rant.  I greatly appreciate it, and all the comments you leave.  I'm thankful for all my followers today.  Thank you all for being interested!!!  I hope you're all having a good day today!

27 comments:

Mouse said...

*passing large mug of tea to you and a ((((((HUG HUG))))) and hope things have settled down a bit for you (and Randi) love mouse xxxx
ps hope mum is recovering better too :)

Momma Sunshine~~ said...

Wow, that's a lot to handle in one day. I wish that your sister had handled things better with you. It was a tough day for everyone why be nasty at the same time. Prayers for your mom and a fast recovery. God was at work with your mom on that day. He isn't ready for her to go and it sounds like she is one tough cookie. Prayers for you, in the strength to hold your tongue and be the strong understanding one in all this. You all will make it through. BIG HUGS to you and your mom

Kaisievic said...

Hi Julie, it is so stressful having a loved one in hospital - as I told you both my parents have had to have bypasses and it was awfully stressful at the time. I, too, have a sister who is a pain and only thinks about herself. One time, my mum had had a stroke and was hospitalised and she was paralysed on her left (her dominant side) and blind in her left eye and the doctors said that she would never recover from that and my sister WENT AWAY FOR THE WEEKEND!!!!! I was left with my other sister (who is indecisive) my elderly father and a doctor telling me that we needed to decide if we wanted her resuscitated or not if she got worse (implying that she would). It was awful!! Luckily, my mum defied that doctor and fully recovered from the stroke - no paralysis, no blindness. So miracles happen and I feel very strongly that your mum will be okay. Just ignore your snotty sister - she just wants to make it all about her!

Lots of prayers, good wishes, flowers and chocolates to cheers, you up, coming virtually your way from me.

Hugs, Kaye xoxox

Charity C. said...

Hey Julie!

Sorry to hear you had such a long and stressful day! You should listen to some Christmas music...that always cheers me up! I am sorry that your sister treated you like she did. I hope everything will be cleared up soon. You can't please everyone and it isn't your job anyway...most likely it is a problem she is dealing with and is taking it out on someone else. I hope and pray that everything turns out for the best with your mom!

mdgtjulie said...

LOL, Mouse, as much tea as I drink in a day, another cuppa can't hurt me!! And the hugs help too. Randi's feeling a little bit better, so hopefully she's on the road to recovery. Thanks, Sunny. I wish she had handled it better too, but hey, you play the hand you're dealt. She seems much better now, and so hopefully she'll be coming home tomorrow. Thanks especially for the prayers for me to be strong. I need all the help I can get. OMG, Kaye, that's awful. I went away shortly after my dad got out of hospital, but he was okay. Also, I had trip insurance, so I could have gone back home at any time had he become worse again. But he was out of the hospital and well settled at home before I left, and I checked in with him every night to make sure he was okay. I can't imagine going away with a parent in that state. I guess we all just have to deal. You can't really pick your family. I'm getting over it, slowly, but you know how that goes...

mdgtjulie said...

Oh, and thanks for the virtual chocolates. They'll only add virtual pounds, whoo hoo!!!

Nancy said...

Praying for healing for your mom and Randi and for strength for you...May God wrap his loving arms around you all and give you comfort, strength and healing. Hugs....

mdgtjulie said...

Oh, thank you so much Nancy. I so appreciate the prayer!!!

Suzie Thomas said...

Bar sinks can either be wall-mounted, floor-mounted or built at a height that would reach an average person’s waist level. This kind of setup can decrease discomfort and back strain especially for those who use the sink with great regularity.

Christine said...

Hope you Mum recovers from the procedure quickly.

cucki said...

i hope you mom feel better soon..sending you and mom lots of hugs and love xxx

Lesley said...

I hope your Mom is on the mend and you are feeling less stressed after a very stressful day. There is nothing like a good cup of tea to help with stress.

Rachel said...

I am sending prayers for your mom and you Julie. It sure sounds like you need them. (((Hugs)))

Patricia Cecilia said...

Praying for you and your Mom and whole family for healing in all ways. Sometime we just have to keep our mouths shut and offer up that suffering--good for you that you could stay calm for you mom's sake.

Lisa Dunn said...

I'm keeping you and your mom in my thoughts. I'm sorry you had such a hard day. Those kinds of things are difficult enough when family comes together and supports one another. I can only imagine how very tough it must have been with sibling drama added on top! Hang in there! I hope you mom has a quick recovery.

Lots of virtual hugs coming your way.

Terry said...

Prayers sent for all of you. So sorry you had such a rough day. These are the times families should pull together but since we all react differently to stress.... I said a prayer for your sister too just because she needs the extra help with her attitude. ;)

Giant HUGS coming your way from all of us! Keep us posted on how your Mom is doing when you get a free minute or two. :)

Claudette497 said...

Praying for strength and the peace that passes all understanding for you and your family. Studies show that hand needlework lowers your heart rate and blood pressure, so if you need an excuse to stitch, it really is good for you! Take good care...

♥ Nia said...

Oh families!!! We all have one ;) hehhehe
Sending prayers and good thoughts on your way sweetie! Hope everyone will be better soon!!

Pete's Pixie said...

Sending big hugs your way Julie. I know from experience how useless some family can be when it comes to having a parent in hospital and the added stress it can cause to an already stressful situation. I'll be thinking of both you and your mum and hope she'll be home soon honey. Hope Randi got off the ceiling ok (rofl!!) Hugs, Ally xxxxx

Sally said...

Lots of hugs coming your way Julie and good thoughts for your Mum xx

Stitching Sweetie said...

Sending lots of hugs & prayers your way!

Doris said...

sending a lot of hugs.

Shelleen said...

Sounds like your sister is a spoiled brat lol. Prayers for all of you and a hug for you.

mdgtjulie said...

Thanks Christine. I'm hoping so too. Thanks Cucki. I really appreciate it. Yeah, right, Lesley. I only drink iced though!!! Thanks for your good wishes. I keep thinking the stress will go away, and it doesn't... Thanks Rachel. The hugs and prayers are much appreciated. Thanks Patricia. I'm just about fed up, but I keep keeping quiet... Thanks again Lisa. It's been rough, but I'm hanging in there. Thanks Terry. For the prayers for all of us. And thanks for the hugs too. They help!!! Thanks Claudette. I really don't need an excuse, but hey, it may come in handy some day. Also, you just made me smile, and today, that is priceless. Thanks Nia. It's much appreciated. Thanks Ally. Randi did get scraped off the ceiling pretty well, so that's good. Still worrying about mom, of course, but I think I probably will for a while. Thanks Sally, I can use those hugs this morning!! Thanks Sweetie. You have no idea how it feels to know people out there care and are praying for her (and me!!). Thanks Doris. I appreciate it! LOL, Shelleen. She's not called wimp for nothing!!

Astrid's dragon said...

I hope that today is better for you, especially for your Mom. That is a very stressful situation to be in, so hugs and prayers sent your way.

EvalinaMaria said...

Here is a big {{{{{hug}}}}} for you. You, your Mom and Randi are in my prayers.

mdgtjulie said...

Thanks Astrid. Much appreciated. Awww, thanks Evalina. I'm finally starting to feel a little bit better, partly from the hugs and prayers going out from my stitchy friends.